June 17, 2016

What I Learned in My First Year of Marriage

On June 6th, 2016 we celebrated our first year as a married couple. Although we weren't able to celebrate together, due to the fact that Caleb is currently at basic training, the days apart only make the day we were together last year that much sweeter. I'm counting down the day until we're together again, but in the meantime here's a few things I've learned since we said "I do!"

It's Not Always a Nicholas Sparks Book
Just like life, marriage is never picture perfect. We don't always have the uber romantic dates, and to be honest, most nights are spent in PJs watching Netflix. We fight, we take each other for granted sometimes, and we probably spend way too much time on our phone. Yet at the end of the day, he makes me happy and keeps me safe. I couldn't ask for anything better. Not even Ryan Gosling and an amazing lake house

Expect Life's Unexpected
If you would've told me that in our first year of marriage we'd move twice, Caleb would join the Air Force, and we'd be long distance again there is no way I'd believe you. Yet here we are doing exactly that. Life changes fast, and you have to be ready to go with the flow. If you don't, everything gets 10x more stressful than it needs to be. That not only puts a strain on you, but your marriage as well. 

 Be Each Other's Best Friend
As cliche as it sounds, my husband is my best friend. I can come to him with everything and he can do the same with me. We laugh together, cry together, build our whole life around each other. Every day with him is like a totally amazing sleepover. As his best friend I know it's extremely important to be his biggest cheerleader. To support him through thick and thin. To see him as a person with feelings, dreams, and learn to not put myself first all the time. Best friends forever, ya know!

Build Your Relationship Around God
Our relationship with God is one of the most important things. A marriage built on such a strong foundation as Jesus can overcome all things. Having that faith between us and knowing we're not alone makes everything feel secure. We pray together when things get tough, praise the lord for all of our blessings, and know that he has an amazing plan for us. Having this relationship makes working through any issue easier.
"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins." 1 Peter 4:8

I Love Him More Than Anything
The biggest thing I've learned this past year is that I couldn't possibly love this man more. He is my everything, the love of my life, and I am incredibly blessed to be his wife. For every bad day we have there are 10 amazing days that follow. Even though I heard constantly how being married at 19 would be "throwing away my best years," I couldn't imagine doing it any other way. 

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Here's to another year of marriage and the infinite number of years to follow.


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